— Podcast - Dying To Ask with Christy B.
Most of us were never taught how to be with death.
A podcast about death, dying, caregiving, and grief. No spiritual bypassing. No tidy answers.
Each episode pulls back the curtain on the things families wrestle with behind closed doors. Hospice and palliative care. Caregiver fatigue. Advance directives. What actually happens as someone is dying. I'll give you grounded, practical guidance, and the occasional bad joke, because a little break from grief matters too.
Whether you're caring for someone you love, facing a diagnosis of your own, carrying grief, or simply death-curious and ready to live a little more awake, you belong here.
Episodes
18. Death Doula Nicole on End of Life: What a Death Doula Actually Does
Christy and her doula buddy Nicole Hoover, known as Death Doula Nicole, take you behind the scenes of death doula work, from legacy videos and obituaries to bedside vigil and staying after the last breath.
17. How to Make Peace Before You Make a Will, with Sarah Cavanaugh, Author of Peaceful Exit
Christy and Sarah Cavanaugh, author of Peaceful Exit, talk about making peace with your relationships, possessions, and body before the paperwork, and about the Pexit Pod, the people you name for the jobs at the end.
16. You're Not Making This Up: A Medium on Feeling Loved Ones After Death
Christy talks with evidential psychic medium Johanna Munson about the Zoom call that changed her life, what a reading actually looks like, and why she believes the capacity to connect belongs to all of us.
15. What I Learned Watching My Mother Feed Her Friend: ALS, Lunch, and Presence
Long before she had a name for death doula work, Christy watched her mother feed her best friend Beverly, who was dying of ALS. In this short, personal episode, she shares what that ordinary lunch taught her.
14. Nobody's Filming You: The Loneliness of Caregiving
A new documentary and a wave of famous caregivers are finally saying the quiet parts out loud. Christy turns to the family caregiver doing this work right now, with no camera crew and no applause.
13. Sideways: Grief Is Sneaky, and It Isn't Only About Death
Christy and psychologist Dr. Megan Rhoads widen the definition of grief to include any loss that organized your life. They talk about why grief comes out sideways when we push it down, and small, human ways to move through it without pretending to be fine.
12. The Steadiness Is the Skill: What Really Happens in the Last Days of Life
Most of what we think we know about dying is wrong, and most of it is gentler than we fear. Christy takes you to the bedside, to the last days and hours, and what actually happens there.
11. More Than a Memory: Why Dementia Is a Terminal Illness
Christy sits down with dementia specialist Lori Rizzo to say it plainly: dementia is terminal, and it is more than memory loss. They talk about stigma, getting ahead of a diagnosis, the dementia advance directive, and the grief caregivers carry in private.
10. Dear Lisa Frank: A Gentle Grief Suggestion (Stickers)
Christy offers the smallest, lowest-stakes grief suggestion she has: stickers. A few quiet minutes in the present can steady you, and on a hard day, one sticker is enough.
9. Helen Dunkle, RN, on Doula Work and Why She Traded In Her Stethoscope
Christy and Helen Dunkle, RN, talk about four decades at the bedside, what changes when a nurse sets the clinical checklist down to become a doula, and why dying at home is a luxury and a privilege.
8. Hearing Voices: Legacy Recordings with Barrie Farivar of Leaf
Christy and Barrie Farivar, founder of the voice recording app Leaf, talk about capturing the voices and stories of the people we love before they fade, and how a recording changes for us as we grieve.
2. Keeping Watch: What Sailing Taught Me About Dying
Christy lived aboard a sailboat for about six years. Out on night watch, the ocean was quietly teaching her how to sit with people who are dying.
1. I Just Want This to Be Over, and Other Things You're Allowed to Feel: What Actually Helps Caregivers
In the first full episode of Dying to Ask, Christy explains what the show is and shares what actually steadies caregivers at the end of life. Hint: it isn't more information.
7. The Casserole and the Getaway Car: How to Show Up for Someone Who Is Grieving
Christy talks to the friends, neighbors, and coworkers who freeze when someone is grieving. There are no right words, and what people remember is who stayed.
6. Dead People Don't Need Resumés: How to Write a Eulogy
A eulogy is not a resume. Christy walks through how to write one, step by step, from facing the blank page to gathering stories and finding the words to close.
5. Congratulations on Your Diagnosis: As a Free Bonus, You'll Be Handling Everyone Else's Feelings About It
When a close friend couldn't explain what Christy does, it became this episode: what a death doula does for people in the middle of a diagnosis and treatment, long before the very end.
4. Failure Is NOT an Option: Why Death Is Not a Failure
We talk about dying as losing a battle. Christy takes apart the quiet belief that death equals failure and offers a truer way to hold it: death as the natural completion of a life.